The Power of Accountability

Accountability can evoke mixed feelings. For some, it serves as encouragement during challenging transitions between compromise and righteousness; for others, it may be met with disdain, especially when they feel pressured to conform before they're ready. While some may dislike the word, those who embrace it often experience transformative results.

In truth, love without accountability is not love. The Scriptures remind us that "God will not be mocked; a man will reap what he has sown." It also states, "Do not be deceived; that which is conceived in darkness will always come to light." Imagine if God had given us the Ten Commandments without holding us accountable to them—that would not be love. For many, the breakthrough they need hinges on seeking accountability.

Feeling remorse for our actions is one thing, but repentance is necessary. Often, this requires accountability, especially for long-term struggles like pornography. Such habits can rewire our brains, creating a dependency on cheap dopamine and programming us to seek instant gratification. As with any sin, this is a poor substitute for the promises God has for us.

I’ve needed accountability in my own life. It’s interesting how we often seek out people who share our opinions, rather than those who will challenge us with the truth. For instance, if I'm looking to buy a new vehicle, I’ll consult friends who know cars rather than someone who might tell me it’s a foolish decision.

The more we confront reality, the quicker our recovery can be. If we genuinely seek the truth that sets us free, we must turn to the Word of God, which serves as our ultimate accountability. Practically, though, we may need brothers and sisters in Christ to walk alongside us and keep us accountable.

I remember struggling with pornography over 20 years ago. A close friend in a position of spiritual leadership took it upon himself to hold me accountable. Every time we connected, he asked about my progress. Eventually, I grew to dislike admitting my failures to him. It became one of my first boundaries, helping me honor what I knew the Lord wanted for my life. Ultimately, it was the conviction of the Holy Spirit that guided me.

If you’re feeling the Lord’s conviction, recognize it as a gift. It’s worse to numb yourself to sin and call yourself a Christian without feeling any conviction. No matter where you are, it’s always wise to take intentional steps toward righteousness. The Father loves you and is always welcoming you back. If you’re willing to follow Him, He will provide the accountability you need.